Before She was Mama

Have you ever been embarrass by your mother?

As a mother, have you ever embarrass your kids?

I have to admit, when I was teenager, I was embarrass to be seen with my mother especially in Hawley, If we were any other places, then I wasn’t as embarrass.

When my mother was a young girl, she was tomboy. She was outside playing with her brothers more than inside playing with her sisters.

She was also daddy’s girl. She was his favorite, and was even named after his old girlfriend.

I believe that it’s normal for kids to go in stages in being embarrass of their parents; especially their mother. Sometimes, mothers tend to be overly affectionate with their kids. When their kids are around their friends or classmates, they tend to be embarrass; and not want their mother around them. They’ll push her away.

It’s natural for mothers to be overly affectionate. They don’t mean to embarrass their kids; but they do.

When the kids would push their mothers away, they are hurt and don’t understand why their kids don’t love them anymore.

It’s not that we don’t love our mothers, we just don’t want our friends to see us being affectionate with our mother.

My real father were drinking buddies with my grandfather, and even worked under him at one time. That was before my mother even knew my real father.

Since my grandfather was dead when my mother was pregnant with me; he never knew about my father and mother dating. What if my grandfather was alive when my mother was pregnant with me? Would there had been a shotgun wedding?

My mother was very independent. I would say that she was Feminist. She wouldn’t let no man tell her that she had to get married when she was pregnant with me.

She even stood up to my step-dad; making it difficult for him to control her. She was her own person.

It’s embarrassing to imagine your parents having sex or being affectionate with each other. If the kids were to walk in on their parents being affectionate with each other, they become embarrass and even scarred for life.

Don’t get me wrong, I loved my mother and I even missed now that she’s gone.

My mother told me when I was in the hospital having surgery on my right eye, there was a time that I told her to go home. She told me that she was hurt by that when she left.

When she had her stroke and was in Sanford on Broadway; it was in May/June close to Ribfest. Anyway, Montgomery Gentry was performing at the Fargo Dome inside as Ribfest was going on outside. I was working for Ribfest and the Montgomery Gentry’s concert. So I decided, after I was done at the Fargo Dome, I would walk over to Sanford on Broadway to sleep in her hospital room to surprise her when she woke up in the morning. Believe me, she was surprised and I think glad to see me sitting in the chair next to her hospital bed. So you can say, that I did for her what she did for me when I was little.

Sure I was embarrass of my mother as a teenager; but I still loved her.

My mother is gone now. I miss her. There’s time I would get angry with her; but that didn’t mean that I didn’t loved her.

Mothers, if your kids are pushing you away because they are embarrass to have you around them and their friends or classmates. It doesn’t mean that they don’t love or need you anymore. We just need our space once in awhile. There’s a place to be overly affectionate and there’s a place to keep your distance.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there! We love and appreciate all you do for us, from the time we are babies until you are no longer with us. When you are gone, we will miss you. Most important, we will always love you even when are embarrass to seen with you or if you somehow, unknowingly embarrass us.