This is unusual for a Valentine’s blog to have a 2 part; but this is part 2. last week when I wrote part 1, finding true love. In this blog, I will ask if you are a cheap or generous lover.

Valentine’s Day is a romantic day of the year. On this day, a guy would proposed to the one they love. They would go all out to make that day very special as they get ready to pop the questions, in hoping she or he would say yes. The first thing they would do is find the perfect ring. They would saved up money for the ring put it on their credit card. Some may have their mother’s ring to used to propose. That person has to be someone very special to do that though.

After getting the ring, they would set up the most romantic way of proposing. They would buy them flowers and chocolate. They would take them out to a fancy restaurant, no fast food place. They will have either wine or champagne. Some may even have music playing at their table before popping the the question. Some may even do the cooking themselves. They may hide the ring in the dessert in hoping that they will find it before choking on it. Some may put rose petals trail leading to the bedroom and bed of roses. As a rule, a guy would get down on one knee to propose.

You tell me if this sounds romantic. My mother thought it was romantic when my step-dad proposed to her. My mother and I were living in a house in North Fargo, when he entered the house and sat beside her on her bed. He said, “Marry me or you’ll never see me again.” When she told us kids this, we just looked at her and said, “No mom,that was not romantic.” We thought that she should had said, “by then.”

After the proposal, comes the wedding. Some may decided to get married on Valentine’s Day. I had been to a Valentine’s Day wedding.

If you love someone, you must be willing to spend money to win their love. That’s the commercial behind Valentine’s Day. You cannot be cheap or you may chased them away.

My real father was very cheap. One time, someone dropped a quarter and he put his foot over it and asked my mother to pick it up for him. Luckily, she didn’t do it; so he waited until that person left and then bent down to pick it up.

Another example was when the 3 of us went out. My mother ordered vegetables with my meal. He blurted out that a burger and fries would had been enough. The only thing my real father paid for was the hospital where I was born. He had money too. I got more from my step-dad than I did my real father.

Luckily, I didn’t inherited his cheapness. I’m usually quite generous when it comes to buying for the ones I love. I’m usually a pretty good at buying gifts for others. I usually pretty much know the right gifts to buy.

I was raised to open a door for a lady. Even though, now days, some may take offense with anyone who would do that. Especially now days when women are more independent. It’s not about control, it’s about being polite and respectful.

Do you hold the door open for a woman? If you are a woman, how do you react to someone holding the door open for you?

Before sitting down at the table, do you pull out a chair for her?

If you really love someone, I hope that you are generous and not cheap. Treat them right and let them know that you love them.