Were you coddled as a child? Were you disciplined as a child?

For those who was coddled as a child, I was disciplined as a child. My mother would say when a child misbehave swat them on the ass. It won’t hurt because there is a lot of cushion there. When I was very little, I was a biter. My mother would say to anyone, if I bite them, bite him back. There was a time when my mother came home tired from work and was laying down on the bed; when I crawled up onto the bed and bit her in the ass for attention, since I missed her. As she was spanking me for biting her, my grandmother intervened on my behalf.

This blog isn’t about being disciplined; but rather on “The Coddling of the American Mind.” By disciplining your children you are raising them up to be good people. Yet, there are those who are being coddled instead of disciplined. In this blog, you’ll see how good intentions and bad ideas are setting up a generation for failure.

Our behavior in society is not immune to the power of rational scientific analysis. Through that lens, prepare yourself for a candid look at the softening of America, and what we can do about it.

How can we as a nation do a better job of preparing young men and women of all backgrounds to be seeker of truth and sustainers of democracy? In other words, raise them up with strong family value and they will grow up to be decent human being. They will remembered the teaching of their youth. They may think that you are a bad parents and vow not to do what was done to them; but as they get older they will be glad that their parents loved them enough to disciplined them when they misbehave.

Something has been going wrong on many college campuses in the last few years. Speakers are shouted down. Students and professors say they are walking on eggshells and are afraid of to speak honestly. Rates of anxiety, depression,and suicide are rising on campuses as well as nationally. How did this happen? People used to respect the college deans and those with different opinions. Now they are easily offended. I said before, I had a college professor, Dr. Thomas Matchie, who was a Democrat and I was young college Republican. We had respect for each other and he eventually became my advisor. You don’t see much of that anymore.

Prepare the child for the road, not the road for the child. Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own thoughts, unguarded. But once you mastered, no one can help you as much, not even your father or your mother. The line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being.

Many university students are learning to think in distorted ways, and this increases their likelihood of becoming fragile, anxious,and easily hurt.

Coddling means being overprotective. We have always been ambivalent about the word “coddling.” We didn’t like the implication that children today are pampered, spoiled, and lazy, because that is not accurate. Young people today-at a minimum, those who are competing for places at selective colleges-are under enormous pressure to perform academically and to build up a long list of extracurricular accomplishments. Meanwhile, all teens face new forms of harassment, insult, and social competition from social media.

As I get older and the fear of ending up in nursing home, I become fearful just thinking that these younger generations will be taking care of us. I would need a cane just to beat them until they actually took better care of us;rather than be on their smartphone and social media. I’m afraid that I see more elderly abuse and neglect by the younger generations, due to their lack of respect and proper upbringing and being coddled.

The untruth of fragility: what doesn’t kill you makes you weaker. When in fact, it’s does just the opposite, what doesn’t kill you make you stronger.

Thanks to hygiene, antibiotics and too little outdoor play, children don’t get exposed to microbes as they once did. This may lead them to develop immune systems that overreact to substances that aren’t actually threatening-causing allergies. In the same way, by shielding children from every possible risk, we may lead them to react with exaggerated fear to situations that aren’t risky at all and isolate them from the adult skills that they will one day have to master . In other words children are becoming unhealthy and overweight.

When I was a child,we played outside with other kids. We would ride our bikes around the neighborhood. Now days, kids are indoors on social media and playing on the computers. They are not as active as we once were. There immune system is weakening due to that fact, and Bobby Kennedy Jr, want to change that as he will be in charge of the Department of Health. The big Pharma and medical professions aren’t very excited about that. They rather feed us poisons rather than let mother nature strengthen our immune system like it did when I was younger.

Human beings need physical and mental challenges or we will deteriorate. Muscles need motion, heart and lung function could decline and blood clots to form. Just as spending a month in bed…lead to muscle atrophy, complex systems are weaken, even killed.

A culture that allows the concept of safety to creep so far that it equates emotional discomfort with physical danger is a culture that encourages people to systematically protect one another from every experiences embedded in our daily lives.

Don’t get wrong: safety is good; but keeping other safe from harm is virtuous and virtues can become vices when carried to extremes. By doing that, children are not able to experience life to live to the fullness. They have more allergy and fear than my generation had growing up. Children are becoming more fragile.

Young people today are to trust their feelings rather than their instincts. They are more easily offended and take offense of every little things.They are not taught to take responsibility for their action. Rather,the social workers would tell them that it’s their parents fault not theirs.

A portion of what is derided as political correctness is just an effort to promote polite and respectful interactions by discouraging the use of terms that are reasonably taken to be demeaning.

Education should not be intended to make people comfortable;it is meant to make them think. That had all change in today’s society. Instead the education system is indoctrinating our kids and tell them the values their parents are teaching them is all wrong. When parents stand up to the school board they called “Domestic Terrorist by people like Joe Biden.

I dedicated this blog to my parents, who did their best to prepare me for the road of life. Sure when I was disciplined for misbehaving I didn’t like it at that time; but it helped me become the man I am today. It taught me values to hand down to the next generations.

Don’t get me wrong: there’s fine line between abuse and discipline. Some parents have known to step over the line of discipline to the point of actually abusing their children. I have been discipline but I also was abused. When a parents leaves a mark on a child while disciplining or go way too far; it becomes abuse.

I only gave a few information from the book on coddling the mind; but only because there is a lot to digest on this subject.

I’m not saying not discipline your child when they misbehave, because children needs to be discipline to grow up in a respectful way. At the same time, know when enough is enough; so that it doesn’t turn into abuse. No one deserve to be abuse! Not a child, not a spouse, not a significant others, whatever your preference. If I see someone being abuse I will intervene. If I see anyone taking advantage of someone to the point they are being hurt, I will intervene.

You can discipline your child but do not coddled them and/or abused them!